It’s the year my writing partner’s spouse formally joins their eighth calendar. In two short years, the biggest of those advocates will be able to mark this exciting personal milestone with them. This impending transition into octogenarian life creates a fitting opportunity to look back on some of the challenges and triumphs that come with this aging process.
Looking back, this was an especially hard year, as I lost some dear friends. The author has gone to the funerals of two brothers-in-law, a half dozen former associates, and five close friends. Each goodbye was a beautiful, heart-wrenching lesson on the impermanence of time and the need to savor every second with loved ones.
Compounded by these emotional tribulations, the writer faced physical challenges as well. They had two major falls last year, including one in the back yard. This fall led to a fractured wrist that had to be put in a plaster cast for two months. The second case resulted in dislocated elbows, resulting in four more months of pain. This has caused even simple activities, such as chopping an onion, to become increasingly difficult, navigating that solely with the non-dominant hand.
As the author notes, only 44% of Americans reach age 80. This reality renders this phase of life extraordinarily invaluable and unique. Every morning, they say thank you for still being alive. This practice has grown even more poignant, as they are now confronted with the challenges of aging themselves.
The author gets ready to accompany their spouse as they embark on this thrilling new adventure. They share the important insights they’ve gained from both loss and recovery. The past year’s unfolding experiences have highlighted the importance of support systems, whether from family, friends, or community at large.
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